The Four Essential Courses in Iyasu's Metaphysical Cleanse
Without a doubt, we can self-heal what ails us physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually. Willingness to embrace four essential concepts and practice them in our everyday lives can encourage and promote self-love, self-worth, self-compassion and self-acceptance.
We were not meant to live with emotional pain day in and day out. Not at all! It is your birthright to live in peace, joy and love. It does require us to practice the following life lessons:
- 100% Responsibility
- Nurture Our Vulnerable Self
- Living Free From Victim Mentality
- Daily Mindfulness Living
Let's look at each one of these separately:
Being a Metaphysical Intuitive Healer is so interesting because I am privy to information people typically keep to themselves. I create a safe space for my clients to emote and express themselves when participating in a Metaphysical Cleanse. One thing people talk about in great detail is their relationships. I’ve spent hundreds of hours listening to clients explain the challenges they’ve had with partners, family, friends and co-workers. Relationship issues causing anger and resentment stem from people not taking responsibility for their behavior and their commitments. In addition to not owning what is theirs, they also tend to blame the other person for the chaos they create with their behavior and words.
This is relatable because we all have dealt with someone who avoids looking at him/herself to a certain extent (and because many of us do this as well). I am empathetic as I understand how challenging it can be to honestly face oneself and one’s shadow side. This is the side of us that we keep in the dark, hidden away from our day to day conscious awareness. People avoid these parts of themselves because it will cause too much emotional pain to admit they are not perfect, or the good guy (or gal), or the realization they cause others pain with their behavior. Sooner or later this catches up with us, thus making this type of avoidance unsustainable. When we deny the parts of us that cause others emotional pain it can show up in our bodies as physical dysfunction, we can lose our relationships, encourage addiction issues and we find ourselves deeply unhappy.
How can we choose to take responsibility for our behavior and our lives?
We do so by understanding that how we live our lives affects more than just ourselves. The reason we begin to grow (or not) as human beings, begins in our conscious mind. Our minds can aid us and contribute greatly to the growth of humankind – think: Mary Jane Seacole, Sadako Sasaki, Marie Curie, Marie Stopes, Mother Theresa, Emmeline Pankhurst, Akiko Yosano, to name a few. These women took risks by confronting the conventional beliefs of their time. They were free and independent thinkers who lead with their convictions based on what they believed to be true and correct. All of these women were able to do so because they believed in the truth of who they were – strong, powerful, emotional, creative, connected and conscious love.
How did these and other women like them create change in the world?
They understood that their strong minds created actions that impacted others. Whether they were aware of the collective consciousness or not, they certainly tapped into it. You can as well! What does this mean exactly? Let me give you an example…look at your hand. Do you see how it looks like your fingers are separate from one another but they are actually connected to your whole hand? This is what is looks like to be part of the collective consciousness. We are all connected to each other and when we send out hate and anger to someone who has hurt us, we ourselves are being affected by what we are projecting outward. Likewise, when we send out love and forgiveness, this comes back as well. Mahatma Gandhi said, “You must be the change you want to see in the world”. Brilliant guy, and so very right on. We won’t get anywhere within ourselves, our relationships or as a society if we continue to blame each other and not take responsibility for what we bring to the table. Imagine what our world, and personal lives, would look like if each one of us began taking 100% responsibility for our behavior, our words, our commitments, and our thinking. I believe we would attain peace, respect (self and other), gratitude, and love on a global level.
Let’s take it one step further.
Have you heard the expression “Like attracts like?” Perhaps you have seen when you were feeling insecure and scared, others with similar feelings entered your life (although the “issues” don’t necessarily show up in the same way for both people). We see this quite often in relationships because what we feel creates a certain energetic vibratory frequency. This frequency is not visible to the eye, however, we naturally draw to us other people who are also vibrating at this frequency. It is the same with disease. Certain illnesses vibrate at a frequency and there are scientific studies that focus on why vibrational frequency healing works. Do you know why when we are in a relaxed state of calm or even meditation we have a feeling of wellness? Likewise when we are stressed out, have shallow breathing and feel afraid, we tend to feel unwell? This is not a coincidence but the principles of energetic vibratory frequency at work. (Please note that much of my assertions here are based on clinical observations I have made over the past 23 + years. My work is based in the energetic fields of the body. I also believe if something hasn’t been proven scientifically (yet) it does not discount the validity or presence of it. Further, the metaphysical work I offer helps the client to engage and affect their own vibratory states on a mental, emotional and spiritual level, each having different vibrational frequencies.)
Now that we’ve worked that out, let’s get back to how taking 100% responsibility for our life can create health, well-being and love in our lives. Let’s say that you are in a relationship and are not happy. You either live with the situation or you choose to leave. Naturally you are upset because things didn’t work out the way you had expected or hoped. Perhaps the other person treats you badly and the behavior appears to be personal to you. Right here is where you have a choice. You can either embrace a victim mentality or you can take 100% responsibility for what belongs to you. Embracing a victim mentality will encourage feelings of defeat, disappointment, anger, sadness, resentment, martyrdom, worthlessness, disempowerment and will keep you on a negativity hamster wheel. When you take 100% responsibility for what is in your life, you own that you made the choice to partner with this person. You said yes and accepted whatever came with your agreement. Chances are, there were red flags that you either didn’t see at the time or chose not to see. When we take responsibility for our choices then we are in a much better position to learn from the ones that didn’t bring us what we desire.
Let me share an example: a friend of mine married her best friend, someone she had known for over 25 years. Even though they were together for the last 7 years of the 25, she felt she knew him well. At first, he was kind and accommodating. As soon as they moved in together, he insisted that things were set up the way he wanted. She told him she needed to have her children’s photos protected since they were in cardboard boxes. He insisted they be stored outside since he didn’t want them taking space inside, and she had to fight him to keep them indoors (red flag #1). He wanted everything clean and out of sight but she needed to keep the vitamins she used daily on the counter and had to fight to keep them there. Despite her protestations, he still moved them without asking her permission (red flag #2). As time went on, she had to keep fighting to get more and more of what she needed. She chose to leave after a couple years because she was tired of fighting. Also, her gut was telling her something was very wrong. Two weeks after she left, she found out he had been stealing money from their joint account and never disclosed he had a criminal history. This shocked her because they had known each other for 25 years and he claimed that she knew everything about him. During the divorce proceedings, more and more information came out that he had lied and cheated her. At first, she was very angry and resentful. Then she blamed herself for not knowing that he was like this. She felt stupid and duped. Over time she took responsibility for what was hers (overlooking the red flags, choosing to partner with him, not looking at the bank accounts and understanding where the money was going), and did not take on what belonged to him (his bullying attitude, criminal ways, lying, cheating and stealing).
In this example if she chose to stay in victim mode, she would continue feeling angry, resentful (possibly for years) and most likely would attract another partner with a similar personality. Instead, she chose to look at what she accepted and where she allowed herself to be bullied. She learned self-compassion, self-worth and self-love by participating in Iyasu’s Metaphysical Cleanse. After completing the exercises and watching the videos, she realized she was worthy of being with a partner who cared about the quality of her life as much as his own. Today she is re-married to a wonderfully supportive and healthy man and has never been happier!
Taking 100% responsibility for how your life looks today is a key component to this Metaphysical Cleanse. You will be asked to review yourself honestly and avoid hiding from the parts of yourself that are uncomfortable and hard to look at. When we look at our humanness as honestly as we are able, we begin to have compassion for ourselves by understanding the origin of our emotional pain. No one is perfect and forcing the ideals of perfectionism will only delay our process of healing. It is much better to understand our present thinking, behavior, emotions, and where we self-sabotage our happiness.
“When we can see it, we can change it!”
~ Rochelle Orion
As my dear friend (and powerful healer) Rochelle so aptly puts it, we can change what we can see. I am a firm believer that when we look honestly at what we are responsible for, without self-judgment, we can make new changes going forward. We are human beings doing the best we can with what we believe to be true in that moment. Change within occurs when we fully own what is ours and use the information that our experiences mirror back to us. By detaching from our behavior and viewing it as helpful feedback, we can maturely choose a different behavior. We choose how we live our lives. Although it is not easy to make a new choice, it literally is that simple.
Nurture Your Vulnerable Self
“She held herself until the sobs of the child inside subsided entirely.
I love you, she told herself.
It will all be okay.”
—H. Raven Rose, Shadow Selves
I can guide my clients to fully self-heal only if we work together with their vulnerable self (aka our inner child). Discovering and healing our vulnerable self can be the most touching, special, profound, and challenging work we will ever engage in. Living and growing as human beings can be such an interesting experience. As children, we control very little. It can be frightening to grow up in a family that feels unsafe. (We can also grow up feeling unsafe even if we didn’t experience abuse or violent trauma.)
Many family dynamics can cause us to feel unsafe. Here’s a short list: if our parents fight with each other (either outwardly or through passive-aggressive behavior); if caregivers judge us harshly; if we don’t feel loved or accepted or if ignored and left alone too often; if we grow up in families with addiction; if we experience or witness abusive behavior; if we grow up in families with depression and anxiety; if we have an emotionally or physically unavailable caregiver . . . the list goes on.
Through a combination of my own inner child work and clinical experience with my clients, I have observed a connection between the unhealed vulnerable self and physical dysfunction as an adult. As children, we learn who we are by how others treat us. We don’t realize that our caretakers might also need to heal their own vulnerable self. We believe they know better than we do, and we take how they treat us or what they say as both valid and the truth. As a result, we often blame ourselves or feel unworthy. If we don’t learn to re-parent the little one inside us, we tend to create a cycle of unworthiness—we choose partners who treat us as our caregivers did and/or we end up in jobs with supervisors who mistreat us, and we believe that it is our fault because we believe we are unworthy. We feel unworthy, so we live from a perspective that perpetuates the cycle.
One of the main intentions behind creating this Metaphysical Cleanse focuses on helping people break this emotionally painful cycle, allowing us to heal our physical dysfunctions and to learn to live in joy, peace, and happiness.
Below is an example of one of my teaching concepts. Please don’t worry if a particular example doesn’t match with your own childhood experience. The important thing is to be willing to connect with your own vulnerable self in whatever way is meaningful to you.
Driving the Bus
In my work as a Metaphysical therapist, I often notice that when clients don’t heal their vulnerable self, the child ends up “driving the bus.” What does this mean exactly? Imagine you own a bus and five-year-old you takes charge of driving— would you consider this appropriate? Definitely not. If we haven’t connected to our younger parts (plural because many different ages require connection and healing), we often react unconsciously from a child’s perspective. The child inside us ends up driving our lives and directing its course. Imagine this child driving the bus with you in the passenger seat (along with all the younger versions of you at different ages)—that’s how most of us live when we (unknowingly) fail to heal and integrate our vulnerable self.
We often choose inappropriate partners because unconsciously something about them reminds us of our childhood caretakers, or an unhealthy relationship modeled in front of us. With our vulnerable self in the driver’s seat, we might feel (again unconsciously) that by choosing a partner who resembles our primary caretaker (who didn’t meet our needs) our new partner-caregiver will give us the love we always wanted—and then we will feel worthy and loved.
But do you see the problem? We often choose partners based on an unconscious immature and wounded image of what our “perfect” savior looks or feels like. Of course, it doesn’t usually work out the way we want and hope. And when our new love inevitably fails to live up to this ideal, we feel confused and hurt—often repeatedly picking similar people. Sometimes we have unrealistic expectations of current partners who lack the capacity or desire to love us the way we want. We cling to a misguided belief that the source of our happiness exists outside us. We believe that our hearts will be healed if only we can find “the one.” If you do believe this, I have some challenging news: No-one will ever heal our past wounds, love us in ways to help us feel worthy and loved, and make our past experiences all okay—because that can come only from within you.
Some of you might protest: “Wait a minute, Stephanie. That cannot be true. I know friends or family that do have that type of relationship and it does exist—what are you talking about?” Fair enough, so let me explain. Yes, people do fall in love and support and care for each other throughout their lives—but only when they both are healthy enough to sustain a healthy relationship. Relationships work because each partner takes responsibility for her or his own wounded past (including but not limited to healing their vulnerable self). Relationships work also because each partner cares about and commits to the wellbeing and growth of the other. The key to a successful relationship involves each partner taking responsibility to heal and integrate his or her own vulnerable self. In other words, the “ideal” we seek lies within us, not as some image we project onto our loved one. Trying to live up to someone else’s projection can sabotage any relationship.
Now for the good news: We can achieve the love we desire by re-parenting our vulnerable self. Ultimately, what we seek lies within. And, of course, our partner can support us as we do our inner work—and vice versa.
If any of the following sounds like something you have experienced, you may well benefit from healing your vulnerable self:
- Wanting our partner to behave a certain way so we feel comfortable within ourselves. For example, if I get mad because my partner doesn’t do something in the timeframe I expect, I impose my values and expectations on my partner. In short, I try to control them. Instead, once I ask my partner to do something and he/she accepts, I must let go of how and when it will be done. If I cannot do that, I must do it myself. If suggesting this brings up feelings of resentment and “I have to do everything myself,” then we need to look at the part of us that has to have everything done the way we want in the time we want.
- Perhaps your partner does not express their feelings, demonstrate love or appreciation as you would like. You might even go as far as issuing an ultimatum: your partner must demonstrate love as you expect, or else you cannot stay in the relationship. Well, that may be true; however I would suggest that you heal your vulnerable self before choosing to the leave the relationship. I understand that deal breakers do show up in relationships, but, most likely when you first chose to be together, your partner had exactly those qualities you now detest—in fact, if they (unconsciously) reminded you of one of your parents, the qualities or behaviors you now reject probably formed part (perhaps a major part) of your initial attraction. Now, you expect him/her to be different and this sets you both up to fail. This does not mean, however, you have to live without getting your needs met. My point: when you heal your vulnerable self your needs may change or you might be able to accept your partner for who they are.
- You may have an actual child you don’t understand or vice versa. Because of limited communication, you feel like you live with a cranky stranger. Even though we might want to impose stronger limits and rules onto a child like this, we might be reacting to our own childhood wounds. When we heal our vulnerable self, we can become a more understanding, effective and compassionate parent.
- Do you havea difficult and overly critical boss who has unrealistic expectations? It’s not pleasant to be around someone like this. Quite possibly, that job/boss is not a good fit for you. Before you quit, however, I would encourage you to participate in some internal healing. Chances are your boss possesses qualities that remind you of someone from your past. Allowing ourselves to see the gift of the trigger (see below) can bring up feelings that otherwise may lie dormant.
- Think aboutyour friendships: Who bugs or angers you? Now consider the possibility that he/she mirrors something in you that you would prefer to deny. For example, perhaps your friend likes things her own way, and tries to control everything. Now ask yourself: “What areas of life do I try to control?” If you didn’t also possess this quality (something about yourself that you dislike) your friend’s desire to control wouldn’t bug you as much. Instead, you might simply feel compassion for the challenges she creates by being controlling. Some friendships come and go, and others last a lifetime. I always encourage people to learn what they can about themselves before they let a friendship go. Often when we shift within ourselves, relationships we once considered unacceptable become acceptable, even enjoyable.
I could come up with many more examples, but these will help us to begin identifying where to focus our internal healing work. When I encourage clients to heal their vulnerable self, they often ask, “How do I do that?” Great question! It’s not as hard or daunting as it might seem.
I discuss the following topics in both my book and my sacred healing workshops:
- Identify your vulnerable self.
- Re-parent/redirect/reassure your vulnerable self.
- Sit in the discomfort of your vulnerable self’s feelings.
- Identify triggers from others—and learn to recognize the gift of the trigger.
- Use the “Healing Mirror”
- Embrace grief and sorrow
Living Free From Victim Mentality
“The problem that we have with a victim mentality is we forget to see the blessings of the day. Because of this, our spirit is poisoned instead of nourished.”
Traumatic experiences, such as abuse and violence, leave their mark and settle into the body and psyche. Nevertheless, you can liberate yourself from your past. Just because you experienced victimization years ago does not mean you need to continue living with victim mentality today.
Surviving mental, emotional, and physical trauma can be heartbreaking; yet it also builds strength if you choose to strengthen yourself through healing. I’ve heard stories of atrocious and catastrophic displays of cruelty and pain by psychopaths. People who intentionally damage others, deny their own feelings, adopt perspectives that support their own biased views of reality, and project their own anger and rage onto others. No wonder, then, so many of us have fallen victim to others’ unresolved issues. Because abuse and victimization run rife in modern society, many people feel justified in clinging to their victim mentality.
Stepping out of victim mentality is no easy task. First of all, most people loathe to admit they live as victims. Doing so requires an honest review on how they chose to live, and it can feel overwhelming to take responsibility for the perspectives they’ve embraced that have shaped their lives. Our perspectives inform the choices we make every day. Some of those choices bring happiness, and others . . . not so much. Regardless, we are still personally responsible for our reactions and responses. Second, survivors of abuse typically seek out healing through therapists, healers, and other professionals. This requires trusting the person they choose to share their stories with, and sitting with the emotional pain of re-living the experiences through cognitive therapy, somatic healing bodywork (including metaphysical colonics), and many other healing modalities. Finally, the process of healing body, mind, and soul takes time—a challenging proposition in a world obsessed with instant gratification. Healing on all levels of our being requires patience, self-compassion, and time. Honoring this truth reveals the beauty of true healing.
Admitting the truth of who we currently believe we are is essential for embracing who we truly are. This honesty will allow the discomfort of some feelings to surface, and we might be tempted to push them away. Some prefer denial and distraction (rather than feeling their feelings) through alcohol, recreational drugs, over-exercising, comfort foods, and co-dependent relationships. We might have participated in such distractions as young adults, but as we age, something within whispers “there must be something more.” We realize distractions merely mask the pain; deep down, however, we know self-medication yields diminishing returns. We need to take more and more to keep the emotional pain at bay. This moment of clarity encourages us to choose a different path.
If reading about victim mentality touched a nerve in you and you are ready to shift this self-defeating mentality to choose a stronger life path, please allow me to guide you and remember this:
Only you know your truth—speak it, stand for it, and live it!
DAILY MINDFULNESS LIVING
“I believe that the very purpose of life is to be happy. From the very core of our being, we desire contentment. . . . Since we are not solely material creatures, it is a mistake to place all our hopes for happiness on external development alone. The key is to develop inner peace.”
—The Dalai Lama
‘How Can I be Happy?’
Why are some people happy and others not? What makes one person content while another suffers? Regardless of how people choose to live, I believe most of us want to lead happy lives. We want to be happy with our partners, family, friends, careers, and ourselves. We want to feel satisfied with our choices so we can trust ourselves and our decisions. We want to feel “normal” and have what we need to avoid worrying about our basic survival.
Two of the biggest reasons humans suffer:
- We worry about not getting something we want.
We worry about losing something we have.
These worries originate from our past experiences, while the fear itself reflects our assumptions about the future. If we experienced loss in our past, we fear it will happen again. If we hold expectations of a desired outcome, we feel disappointed when it doesn’t happen and fear it never will. These two worries share a common thread: lack of self-worth. When we feel unworthy, we fear we won’t attain (or even deserve) what we need to be happy. This comes from a more general and debilitating belief: "I'm not good enough to hold onto what I have and want to keep.
By practicing Daily mindfulness living, attending to of our mind’s incessant activity, we stay present and can watch what our mind presents as “truth.” This is the only way we can differentiate between a fear-based mind and our authentic true self. A fear-based mind creates a critical voice that tells us we are unworthy. By contrast, our authentic voice, based in self-love, self-worth, and self-compassion empowers us. When people suffer with illness or dysfunction (physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual) we can frequently trace the origin back to the critical voice echoing a deep unworthiness, expressing a self-loathing belief.
Much suffering stems from our own thinking. Inaccurate and negative self-beliefs trigger painful, emotions such as loneliness. For example, if we believe we are unworthy of love we fear we may be alone forever. Because humans are pleasure seekers, we tend to avoid sitting with unwanted emotions or feelings. When we avoid feeling uncomfortable, we look for distractions—something most people seem to have mastered. We probably understand the difference between healthy vs. unhealthy foods; but depending on our level of discomfort at any given time, we might choose to act on or ignore this information. Many people base their food choices on emotional comfort to one degree or another (in this context, “food” also includes alcohol). Today, most people know that sugar, processed foods, unhealthy beverages, preservatives, and excessive consumption of alcohol result in a variety of health issues. However, it seems people do not realize why we continue to consume these foods, even though we know they damage us. If you have ever been on a diet where you eliminated unhealthy foods and beverages and, as a result, experienced how good your body felt, wouldn’t it stand to reason you would never choose to eat unhealthfully again? But it doesn’t really work that way. Why? Because we are not taught as children how to live with the discomfort of uncomfortable emotions and we distract ourselves with unhealthy foods.
Life continually offers us opportunities to feel and heal, particularly in relationships with others. Think about all the uncomfortable emotions you’ve experienced in your lifetime. When someone mirrored issues back to you, what did you do? Working with clients, I notice that being willing to feel vulnerable challenges them most. I empathize: embracing vulnerability can leave us feeling weak. However, paradoxically, willingness to be vulnerable can also empower us. We get to know our authentic selves—the real self. If we stop hiding from what we fear about ourselves (our beliefs) and open up to what we truly want and need, we will begin to have honest and empowering conversations with ourselves. At the end of the day, we can reflect on our behavior and decide if we lived from our best selves. Only with mindfulness can we notice if we fail to live up to the standards of our “best selves,” and then choose to make changes accordingly.
Metaphysical Intuitive Healer
About the instructor
Stephanie Kato is an intuitive healer offering metaphysical colonics, bio electric lymphatic drainage and craniosacral therapy. She feels blessed to have worked at many different colon hydrotherapy clinics over the years, including The Allred Technique with Connie Allred (the woman who founded the International Association of Colon Hydrotherapy and was instrumental in making colonics what they are today).
As a practicing therapist since 1996, Stephanie created a style of healing combining metaphysics and cleansing. As a result, Iyasu (which means “to heal” in Japanese) was born. Should a client wish to engage in a Metaphysical Colonic, Stephanie encourages him/her to share emotional experiences of stress and disharmony in their lives as they physically release. As they do, an amazing thing happens - the client feels relief (emotionally and physically) and they start to connect how their physical body holds onto emotional, mental and spiritual issues in a way that may be creating dysfunction and illness within them.
It is this unique combination that inspired Stephanie to create an online school where clients can learn different self-healing lessons at their own pace.
Stephanie recognizes true healing can only come from the individual, and works with clients by showing them how to shift their mental, emotional, and spiritual perspectives with the intention of healing their body, mind and soul.
Stephanie considers it a great honor to serve each client and believes that what occurs in the healing rooms of Iyasu is very deep and sacred work.
Stephanie has written two books that will be available soon:
Embracing Love by Letting Go: A Metaphysical Cleanse
Embracing Life by Letting Go: A Guide for Therapists
Investing in these Four Core self-healing courses helps you focus your time and energy on the self-healing lessons that will create the most life-changing and profound experiences. If you commit to going through these lessons with honest review through jounalling and practicing the exercises, I believe you will live as a stronger, more empowered and conscious person. You will embrace self-worth and self-love that will literally change your life!